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A marriage counsellor
That's who William and Kate should see. And the sooner the better.
George Louis, yes, yes, I'm fairly pleased he's arrived. It's nice having a nationwide bonding event to get old Blighty feeling good about itself again. I mean it's not the Olympics but it's probably on a par with the Ashes, the heatwave and Chris Froome doing his thing in the Tour de France...
Personally I'm not a big royalist but I'm happy all the same and they seem like decent normal people.
But what about William and Kate and what it'll do to them as a loving couple?
Hmmm... interesting. How are they going to split their parental responsibilities? He'll change the odd nappy for sure, but will she really trust him when it comes to the important things. And if she doesn't will he go off being all macho and doing more of his fighter pilot stuff? Did Kate already give up her career when she married him or will she give it up now? And what about sex?
I'm about to head off on holiday so I'm being glibber than normal but there's a serious point I'm making.
Being a parent is amazing. In many ways children make life simpler. You might get less sleep but you also ask yourself fewer difficult questions. Young children need you and putting food on the table is more important than lowering your handicap. Becoming a family can take away lots of the emotional highs and lows that young couples have pre children. In many ways it's a comfort zone which is very reassuring psychologically but does nothing for romance.
Sex, dancing, dinners a deux, sleep, pillow talk, independence, friends' nights out. These are some of the essential ingredients of life pre children and if you're not careful they get thrown out with the bathwater.
A message to William and Kate
The next few months will be hard, but you'll get through them. And once George is sleeping through the night then sit down and talk about this stuff.
Have one night out a week with no babies, friends or Harrys in tow and you'll be amazed at how good the conversation is. In the meantime if you need a nanny I know just the place, pay Tinies Nanny Agencies a visit.
Ben Black
